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7 Common Relationship Mistakes And How To Avoid Them!

<img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTPffQTpyZDWf0hB5cPKUcpB49VFG_U-YhJ8H5Mz1sLmR_B8AZvKprATX2TgkjseZ8UoBRY_lzQH57CAa2S4YtOdDuklKCce2MLkf6ch8KrwCXTShyphenhyphenzTDFXHO21ikuo0sjjlvp8QpRaLNs/s1600/index.jpg" />Navigating relationships can sometimes seem like walking through a 
battlefield.  You try to make it through safely, but often run the risk 
of stepping on a landmine that could cause significant damage – to both 
yourself and your partner. So, consider the following possible 
relationship mistakes and some thoughts on how to avoid them.

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 1. Never Rely on Your Partner to “Complete” You

The number one mistake people make in relationships is losing their 
identity.  Without two separate “I’s,” there can be no “we.” A strong, 
well-developed identity in both parties is a key component to a secure 
relationship.

2. Don’t Discuss Your “Skeletons” Too Soon

The first few months of relationships are crucial; this is the time 
you are establishing a firm foundation for the partnership to thrive. 
You don’t want to make the mistake of prematurely revealing deeply 
personal information.  That level of intimacy should be saved for when 
the “we” is more securely rooted.

3. Don’t Focus Too Heavily on the Negatives

Not everything your partner says or does will sit well with you. The 
key to maintaining a happy, healthy relationship is not harping on those
 shortcomings. See your partner as a whole person, recognizing the 
things you find endearing, as well as the things you see as negative.

4. Never Assume the Worst

Moments will arise when your judgment about your partner will be put 
to the test. Don’t be too quick to jump to conclusions. Like you, your 
partner is imperfect and deserves the benefit of the doubt.

5. Don’t Rain on Your Partner’s Parade

It is impossible for your “I” and your partner’s “I” to be perfectly 
compatible all the time. You may not like some of the differences in 
attitudes and interests that exist between you and your partner. Keep in
 mind, however, that a stable partnership is based on each person’s 
ability to be supportive of those differences, even when it takes them 
out of their comfort zone.

6. Remember to Communicate

Silence is not always safe. Don’t assume you and your partner see 
things in the same way, or that your partner can read your mind. Take 
ownership of what is yours and communicate it honestly and directly. 
Where differences exist, use good conflict resolution skills to resolve 
them.

7. Don’t Allow Your Past to Dictate Your Future

History has a way of repeating itself unless one mindfully makes 
changes.  Take an honest look at your previous relationship mistakes so 
that you can avoid repeating them. This means confronting your fears and
 dependencies, and not looking to your partner to take responsibility 
for what is yours.

Keep in mind that building a strong “we” is a work in progress that 
is rich with discoveries and always filled with challenges. Following 
the above roadmap will help you to avoid some of the bumps in the road 
and disarm the behaviors that can undermine your relationship.

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