Topic...10 Tips to Immediately Improve Your sex-Life with Your Soul Mate.

           How often do you and your spouse talk about what you like and don’t like in the bedroom? Do you feel like your s*xual needs are being met or are you feeling frustrated or rejected? s*x is such a crucial part of a successful marriage, but it can be one of the last subjects on the list that you talk about. s*x in marriage is a way for you to communicate with your spouse on a level that you can’t do with anyone else.

        Some of the barriers we see over and over again in our counseling practice are issues with the lack of s*x, not having s*xual needs met, lack of connection outside of the bedroom, which affects the connection in the bedroom, feelings of resentment, frustration and rejection.
To address some of these common issues, we have developed 10 tips you can start to implement tonight.

1. Discuss your likes, dislikes, fantasies, frequency and s*xual needs. This point is based on you having knowledge of what your needs are. If you are unsure exactly what you like and how to communicate it, study your body during s*xual encounters with your spouse and keep track of what you like and point it out to your spouse at the time. Exploration together to find out what you like can be fun.

2. Discuss what happens when one of you initiates and then gets rejected. Discuss when the initiator’s request will be honored.

3. Discuss any barriers to having s*x. Discuss any barriers to having s*x, for example, any frustrations, anger and past trauma. This area can be pretty heavy and should not be discussed just before a s*xual act. A special time should be set aside for these discussions making sure to take care of one another in the discussion with validation and empathy.

4. Ladies make yourself visually appealing for your husband. Men, women are stimulated by ongoing love, care and affection. Men you must show affection to your spouse throughout the day, not just prior to the time that you want to engage in s*x. Women can get EXTREMELY frustrated when it appears that the only time a man is interested in showing affection to his wife is when he wants s*x and may even feel used or rejected if this is a pattern that is displayed.

5. Learn the rhythm of you and your spouse’s s*xual arousal. Learn the ways your spouse likes to be pleased and pleasure your spouse. Understand how to maintain these feelings during s*x so that both of your s*xual needs are met.

6.Learning the rhythm of your s*x life can help eliminate any resentment that may occur when s*xual needs aren’t met.

7. Don’t compare your s*x life to that of your married or single friends. Everyone’s s*x life is different. Know what works for your marriage.

8. Provide s*xual fulfillment for your spouse. s*x in a marriage is about mutual fulfillment. In order to get your needs met, you must be willing and able to meet your spouse’s needs. s*x in marriage is reciprocal.

9. Don’t penalize one another for lack of climax or a premature climax. Work together to meet each other’s needs.
Be aware of your needs and your spouse’s needs and strive to meet each other’s needs every time you have s*x.

10. Maintain a close friendship and spiritual connection. This will enhance your physical connection when the two of you are intimate.

s*x in marriage is one of God’s gifts to marriage. Learn how to please your spouse and allow your spouse to please you. Tonight’s homework is to put these tips into action. In fact, make a better s*x life a priority for you in the next month. Enjoy your homework!